stina
No place for hijabless pics
This blog is dedicated to those of you who think they have no place here on muslimspace.com.
Judgment is a key factor in the outlook many Muslim women and how they portray one another. I was angry with someone earlier today, and portrayed her out to be a horrible person; which ironically was what she did to me. I am new to this site, only been here for a few days, and added a few people I thought I could learn a lot from. I wanted to get to know more Black Muslims since that is what I am. There are few to none in my area that I can relate to, so the site provided a great way to connect. I added one sister in particular who was disgusted and offended that I had the audacity to add her. I had no idea that I would receive such a response. She didn’t tell me in a message, I had to find out by poking around in the forums and happened to come by one she wrote within the past two days or so. She said that she did not understand why the site administrators allowed women without hijabs on the site. She then went on to describe what I looked like, down to the color of my clothes in my profile picture and said that she wanted nothing to do with me. And that I was dressed as a non-believer, and shouldn’t call myself a Muslim….because I do not wear hijab.
I have never been brought to tears from embarrassment before in my life. I consider myself to be strong willed. I’ve been trough rape, depression, attempted suicide, homelessness, heartbreak, disownment, separation of parents, and so much more. Modesty has nothing to do with all of these things because I was exposed in ways that I would never wish upon anyone. I view myself as someone who doesn’t cry anymore. I have always been on my feet with my head held high, but this subject brought me to my knees today; because it was a direct hit on my spirituality and the way I conduct myself. I wouldn’t be putting up much a fight over this issue if there weren’t so many other Muslim women agreeing with her. I now see soooo many pictures dedicated to the phrase “stop hijabless pics”.
I am sickened by all of this hate. There is a reason for why I do not wear hijab, and that is between God and I. But since there are so many of you out there that seem to hate the fact that I am on this site, I guess I’ll share. I just converted for God’s sake. How dare any of you judge me for my actions? What I think is shameful, is for a woman to wear the hijab and not be the best Muslim she can be. The best Muslim I think I could be is years down the road. The Qur’an was NOT written in a day, so neither should be my deen. I was expecting to learn and grow from this site, and I still do. But with caution now, because now I see that there are a lot of you out there that judge people without any background to that person’s character. And to those of you who had no idea that this kind of thing was happening, I hope you are now informed and will talk to your fellow sisters and brothers about the impact that it has on converts…or for that matter, anyone. The number one reason people have given me as to why they stopped believing in Islam is because they felt they were pushed away. I never understood that, but now I do. I don’t think I’ll stop believing, but it’s hard to hold strong when the community has turned their backs on you.
You have a place here, and there is a lot to be learned here as well. I also belong to a number of forums where I gain a lot of information as well... send me a message if you are interested in joining something like that as well. One of them is only for females and everyone is very accepting and it is a great community! Masha'Allah on your conversion.
to wear hijab, not to wear hijab, who am I to judge you...?!
though it is an islamic rule, but you know that already, and you do not need me nagging about it...!
I know some muslim sisters who were hijab but they do not pray!!
I feel that no one can judge on the intentions since no one has an X-Ray vision to what's there in the other's heart...!
you may read my blog about muslim's life too...
May Allah bestow his mercy and forgiveness on you...
As salaamu alaikum
It's okay to be upset over seeing a sister not wearing hijab and it's okay to speak out, but it should be done in a way that doesn't hurt and run people away. I too get upset seeing so many sisters exposing themselves. If one is new to Islam, she may not have the full understanding of the importance and the benefits of wearing hijab. I know I didn't. I thought as long as my clothes weren't painted on, I was being modest. Anyway, everyone continuing enjoining the good and forbidding the evil...just be gentle, encourage and explain with kindness why one should refrain from posting hijabless pics.
I'll think with all the rape and drama one will be eager to cover their body.
well it called being discussed with what Islam is becoming here in the west. What is so wrong with hijab? i have all the right to be upset , i give advise and no one listens they just point the finger at me because i say somthing about people not wanting ware hijab and wanting me to exept there pics why are you to affraid to ware hijab?. I should just give up Islam to because in this county and on this site i have to accept what is wrong or i am wrong. I dont understand sisters! Someone has to stand up for Islam as a muslim women. I am not judging the sister because she dosnt want to ware hijab its because she wants to put pics of her self with out it. that is my problem and i am tje one thats wrong for saying anything. I see Islam becoming Chritanity in this Country. Everyone is scared of non muslims and what they think, Maby i care to much and i am just hurt and upset but sisters need to over come the fear or they will never ware hijab.
As salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuhu
SubhanAllaah... just today I posted a blog containing two ahadeeth on being gentle. Ameena, What kind of da'wah is this (harshness)? While I agree whole heartedly that there should be no hijabless pics on this site, we have to aid our sisters in the journey to hijab. I know I mentioned in some other blog or forum taking over two years to wear hijab and NO it wasn't because I didn't want to. It was MY jihad and alhamdulillaah I got through it. What's easy for one person may not be easy for another. Let's remember that and help each other insha'Allaah. If I've misunderstood you, I'm sorry.
Neely, masha Allaah... lovely response.
Stina, I'm sorry you were hurt and hope that you will take the pain and turn to Allaah asking Him to make obeying all of His commands easy on you (ameen). I can totally relate to what happened to you today. I was treated harshly as a non-Muslim looking to meet sisters and say shahadah. I could have easily turned away, but I was determined to become a part of this beautiful deen. Don't let this experience tarnish your image of your sisters in Islam and as Neely stated, insha'Allaah make excuses for us when we do become overly passionate and come across in a negative way and insha'Allaah we will remember to do the same with you and others who may be struggling one way or another.
If I've said anything to hurt you or anyone else, I ask first for Allaah to forgive me, then you. Reminds me of a du'aa I used to say daily (this is a good reminder to start again insha'Allaah)...
Allaahumma 'Aalimal-ghaibi wash-shahaadati faatiras-samaa-waati wal-ardhi, Rabba kulli shai'in wa maleekahu, ash-hadu allaa ilaaha illa Anta, a'udhu bika min sharri nafsee, wa min sharrish-shaitaani wa shirkihi, wa an aqtarifa 'alaa nafsee soo'an, aw aju
Assalamu alaikoum,
I agree with what you say you know, because I dont wear Hijab yet either, Im a convert, and i really want to wear Hijab, but you know, there are a lot of things i have to deal with before that, like building up the courage with all my friends and family etc.. So the sisters should realise that it may be hard for you to begin to wear Hijab, and its also important that if the sisters are trying to help you then they should leave you a message and not just talk about you behind your back so to speak. She has some points though, if you dont wear Hijab normally then its not really good to put ur pics up... this is just advice. and if you dont have the courage or are not ready to wear Hijab then you should be taking steps with what you wear such as loose clothes and clothes that completely cover your body. If you are ready, and you know, Allah knows best what is in your heart, not any one else who tries to judge you. It isnt their place to judge you anyway, but to give you advice... Allah is the only true judge of you and your heart. I hope i helped :)
There is still a way of dealing with others. I don't think that "shouting" at anyone is the most effective way to get across a point, but some people may not know this. I posted a blog about needing more mirrors, and it is basically about us muslims serving as mirrors for each other. If I see something in you that I feel needs to be worked on, then I should find a way to give you dawah in a wise and beautiful way. As another person commented, the sisters really are trying to do good for muslim space. Imagine that maybe your photo and other photos of women displaying their beauty is fitnah for brothers on the site. I truly believe that we all want what is good for each other, and maybe she wasn't really shouting but expressing her thoughts very excitedly ^_^. At the end of the day, your feelings were hurt, and may Allah (subhana wa ta'ala) protect us from causing pain for our sisters and brothers in Islam. Ameen.
Hijab is important and every muslim woman should wear it because it is what Allah(subhana wa ta'ala) has ordered for the believing women. InshaAllah you will some day wear hijab, but as Islam is a religion of personal accountability... it really is (to an extent) between you and Allah (subhana wa ta'ala). At the same time, some of our actions affect society as a whole, and for this we too will be held accountable. There is wisdom in women wearing hijab, and there really is no room for having an opinion on a matter when Allah (subhana wa ta'ala) has spelled out clearly (several times..). There must be a reason for this... reflect on it inshaAllah.
I reverted to Islam, so I can understand some of what you have said. However, I think we ALL want what is best for our sisters since it is what we want for ourselves. Maybe the sister responded to you the way she would want to be responded to if she was in error. Allahu alim. My suggestion is to look at the advice she gave, and if there is anything of
